NATO complaints are the fig leaf by which claims to intellectual honesty hide. It's unfortunate to see these claims repeated here.
Russia invaded once in 2014 and took Crimea, now it wants Belarus-style buffer states, at a minimum.
The best thing the West can do is continue to maximize its claims: that geopolitical borders are no longer determined by invasion and that a reversion to the "Old Ways" is punishable in the extreme. Anything else enables venturism (venturism that results in tens of thousands of lives lost) among other actors who have long coveted the borders of their neighbors.
NATO isn't invading anyone. States clamor to its safety because of bully states like Russia. Any credible threat to Russia's safety by a united NATO is self-created.