cant you elaborate on "buy assets"? stocks, real estate, all the above, something else?
If someone told me that 10 years ago, I might have made different life choices.
Yes, and California is one of those states, for purchase-money mortgages on owner occupied properties; and after Jan 1, 2013, also for refinances of purchase-money mortgages on owner occupied properties. Foreclosing the property satisfies the loan, if there's excess from the foreclosure auction, you'll get paid; if there's a deficiency, you'll have taxable income for the amount written off. Word on the street is most California foreclosures go through the non-recourse process (private sale), even for loans that they could sue for deficiency (judicial foreclosure), because the process is quicker and simpler.