Why can’t work just be work? Do you really want to spent time with your coworkers outside of work? Some of us have families to care for. And some of us have actual friends that we like to hangout with. Coworkers aren’t my buddies or family. We are a team to get things done for a price.
As a young person, work is basically the default way to meet people after moving to a large city. I have real friends outside work now but they all started as colleagues or friends of colleagues. I'd also prefer to work with people I can trust over anonymous colleagues any day.
I'm not saying it's the only way (it's probably not good or healthy) but this sentiment is super common among my peers. When we're older I suspect that will change.
Very common example of how this can happen: Moving to another country for work.
We already spent enough time at work, I should be allowed my own free time to relax without feeling the peer pressure to be part of the team outside work hours.
And yet I've learned that not everyone is like this, especially nowadays with remote work growing in popularity. Some people do feel that a personal connection helps in a professional setting. So I tend to begrudgingly accept this and make an effort to do this for the team.
And how do you know they don't want the same thing? I know tons of people that would rather spent time with their loved ones than their coworkers. You might want to rethink your definition of ignore, because it sounds very much like unhealthy peer pressure.
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