The light your own car produces will always be only a tiny fraction of the illumination you see when driving because you only see the subset of it that gets reflected back by the road and other objects. But the headlights of other cars shine directly in your eyes.
When I drive at night now, I see mostly harsh headlight glare surrounded by inky blackness.
If oncoming headlights bother you then the move to LED should be embraced. Nothing like getting swatted with a HID projector lamp.
LED arrays are also a lot more compact, so features like self leveling will hopefully be more likely to spread to more models instead of being purely a luxury feature, further reducing the amount of overspill in oncoming headlights.
Windshield could black out specific spots that are too bright for the driver. This could apply either for headlights of other cars or the Sun
Unfortunately you are not taking into account how that brightness impairs other drivers ability to see.
I do agree with the parent, I do feel more distracted by bright flashes of blueish-white light from modern head lamps. Roads aren't flat. Cars bounce, dip, and hop over hills, bumps and pot holes. Never mind the jerks who regularly drive with high beams on or forget to turn them off when passing. Those sudden flashes of light cause floaters in your field of vision leaving you temporarily blinded. This is a problem that no one seems to care about and I feel like we are ignoring these issues on purpose.
I have to either move or quit my job because the commute is now soul sucking. People drive really selfishly, some even retaliating on road with vehicular violence. This morning on my way in I was merging onto the highway, then accelerated and move into the middle lane to cruise for a while. Apparently I misjudged a dude who must have been doing 80+ in the middle lane, in a 50 zone as he was up my ass in seconds when he was a few hundred feet back in my mirror when moving over. So he goes around me and violently cuts me off almost hitting me, on purpose (he had a passenger too). You believe that shit. Fucking guy was mad I got in his way when he was getting off in a few hundred feet anyway and should have just went into the right lane and grannied the remaining few hundred but no. I wanted to drink the blood from his still beating heart after that fucking shit and I almost saw red and lost it reaching for my bat. but I have to eat that, drive defensively, and go on about my day because engaging in road violence puts everyone else at risk and is pure dumb. Fuck em. It's a shame they can get away with this crap.
I just drive defensively, dim the rear mirror (auto-dim ftw.) Tinted windows are a nice attenuator for sun, headlights and other illumination but suck at night for all around vision. I wind up having one of those driver AB memory settings and have B angling my mirrors slightly down so I can see wheels and just crane my neck slightly to see next to me. Sounds dangerous but im used to it, can still see most of what's next to me and it keeps flashes of bright headlights outta my eyes at night.