@omosubi, this almost slipped past my reply window.
I think you got a bad deal and saw the wrong side of it, and for sure
there are bad therapists around. That's why I pushed the formal
training thing a bit.
> I don't buy that therapists are good at actually solving people's problems.
You're right. It's a cliche, but they help people who want to change
solve their own problems. There aren't "therapists in general" just
individual ones. Most all of them are the wrong one for you.
> whatever zeitgeist feel good advice was common on Instagram
That's bad.
If you ever try again shop around mercilessly. Any real therapist will
give you a free initial meeting to see if the relationship is going to
work. Totally walk out and say "thanks but no" until it feels like
something is going on... what that feeling may be is that you hate
this person for touching a nerve, or something, but it will be
emotional.
> encourage you to sink deeper into whatever problems you have and not
address the root cause.
If you can articulate what you think the root cause is you're already
ahead. Sometimes that's months of work to discover. The root cause
can bring up really shitty stuff that makes you want to quit. And
what you think the root cause is might not be the root. Therapy is
not just 5Y analysis. Be prepared to find that some major code needs
rewriting.
> I imagine the majority of therapists are like this
As I said the majority of therapists are the wrong one for you. The
usual distribution. You're probably smart enough to know the
bell-curve already - some shit, some brilliant, many that are not for
you... a few that are. Good luck.