The problem comes down to a simple one and I'll put it in the form of a question (this question generalizes to a lot of other areas too btw):
Is a deal/agreement fair when one side has an elite team of lawyers and psychologists and the other team has a high school degree?
I honestly think this is a question a lot of us, especially working for big tech companies, need to internalize and address. I'm not sure there are any easy answers either, because whichever side you fall on (I'm assuming people will say "{yes,no}, but..." instead of a strict black and white answer) there are nuances that are going to play major roles and tip the scales. I'll hint at my personal answer by saying I agree with Blackstone.
As to the question of "bail us out so we can participate in society" I think that is a little different. I think the problem is that the structure has rapidly changed and become out of hand. Incentives were misaligned. We tried to create a system where everyone could get the means to attend college but that incentivized an environment that creates predatory lending and increased financial obligations (upwards of 1k% increases). There's clearly something wrong with the system. I think many people claim to have the answers but I'm sure these are all far too naive. Something this complicated isn't going to have trivial solutions.
It seems our age of majority is already an arbitrary measure.
Unless students are educated in financial literacy and professional life as part of the curriculum, I'm not sure we can expect them to be making competent, experience-based decisions on the cost benefit of education on a 20+ year timescale.
And that's not to mention that many loan providers use predatory tactics, including the companies that administer federal loans.