‘Disabled’ is not a bad word. Stop telling people with disabilities it is
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I can't do many things that most others can. That's just how it is and I have accepted that. I work with what I have, just like we all do.
Calling it something you consider less offensive doesn't obviate you from treating me with respect and decency. If you want to know something about my disability ask. Be polite and respectful, Understand the appropriateness of the situation and don't obsess on my differences.
When we first met I didn't ask, "wow why are you so ugly?" So maybe asking "why do you limp?" Shouldn't be your first question.
Compassion isn't avoiding offending me, or offending your own feelings.
Compassion is about understanding, hey they can't do some things many of us can or need to do them differently. But they're a person and deserve to be treated like one just like anyone else.
This isn't hard.
A word starts out as neutral, but gradually transitions to becoming a slur (a process that seemingly takes decades), and is replaced by a new politically correct word which is seen as too avant-garde at first, but gets established in part due to a lack of push-back (because any criticism will make the person levelling it seem a bigot/racist/ass), and eventually that becomes the default word, until it starts sliding into slur territory and the cycle starts anew.
I'm not sure if this process can actually be prevented.
The same process seems to apply to social networks (“Facebook is for parents”)
In all these cases, there’s a mechanism that makes a word or product tabu within certain social circles, forcing them to come up with a new term.
The process that leads to things becoming tabu stays, however, so the cycle repeats itself.
I wouldn’t know what it would be, but it wouldn’t surprise me if there were a more generic term that applies to all of these.
Also known as "euphemism cycle": https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Euphemism#Euphemism_treadmill
> "negro" => "colored" => "black" => "African American" => "person of color"
It's pretty inane when you think about it. At some point wouldn't people start noting that, hey, you're trying to solve something clearly, but what you're attempting to do is clearly not the right approach.
The advocacy and social signaling feels more imperative than the ancillary social improvements that may be happening either way. It also feels generationally alienating, while some of the “I see things with new eyes” part can happen even among those who don’t even know the words have changed.
When the world stops being racist this renaming will stop.
As well say “renaming will not stop.” Something will always be wrong to someone. Change will always be right to someone.
Regardless, it may be the case that a permanent state of euphemism treadmilling does solve a problem - a social signal, perhaps, to distinguish those who embrace social change and those who resist it. It's pretty effective at that too.
Realize that there are people making a living off of trying to find new things to be offended by.
Once you realize that, the world starts to make a lot of sense :)
Aside, somehow "retarded" got replaced by "special needs" or "short bus" in some circles which also sounds insulting to me, so maybe we'll continue this treadmill for awhile longer.
I could go with the first two in a code review.
Differently abled is OK. Learning differences or special needs also works. Disabilities I think is still OK.
I'm kind of on board with getting away from retarded and disabled.
I see this tug of war of new word as part of the process for finding the best word… for this particular zeitgeist.
I remember in the 2000s, “a person with autism” was preferred because they are first and foremost a person who happens to have autism. But this year I learned some people prefer the term “autistic” as they claim it as part of who they are.
I had this discussion with someone not long ago about the term "homeless" or "homelessness" and their argument was that this was an overly aggressive word and was outdated. The damn word describes exactly what it is, which is a person that is without a home.
The universe is not balanced and fair. It didn't give me something in exchange for what it took from me, and that is okay.
Ex: I don't experience my poor vision as a disability right now, because I'm easily able to access an aid that allows me to do everything I want to with no major downsides, in the form of glasses.
But if I were to become direly impoverished and lose access to them (again lol), I would be disabled by that circumstance. My physical state has stayed the same. The disability is in what I can't access and why, not the impairment itself, which can be addressed.
Or you know, just call me by my name? That works too I guess.
Yes? That's the entire point. Language shapes thought, and so word choice matters, and so there is a movement to be mindful of word choices. It's not a "cult" or dystopian thought control because it's completely democratic - people have every right to shame each other for poor word choices. "Wokists" aren't some cabal, manipulatively pulling strings from behind a shadowy curtain - these views only have power because they're held by a lot of people.
If you want to convince people to do things differently, you'll have to address their views on their own merits. Attacking the basic principle of social enforcement of moral values won't accomplish anything.
It sounds like a copy of the British term "special needs" used to refer to someone with cognitive impairment, sometimes shorted in conversion by people as "special".
"Stop"? That's harsh "Tellling?" That excludes people who are unable to talk "People?" Whoa, aren't we constantly going on about animals and even plants being sentient creatues?
So "differently continue communicating to sentient creatures"... Oh wait, creationism? ...