You are not alone. Unfortunately, you will find the your experience is generally common in the industry. Care for the craft is something rare. On the upside side you will excel in engineering work as an individual contributor if you can develop a good attitude. On the downside you will spend many years dealing with people whose competency is questionable at best.
As for what standard to hold others to: be patient and kind. Always assume good intent. Enlighten others in any way you can and be gentle while doing so. Raise the bar for them one millimeter at a time if neccesary. It takes time and effort to earn trust, but once you have it you have the capability to uplift those around you, which is a precious gift. Don't squander it because of pride.