People choose mates based on perceived genetic fitness using proxy metrics, such as symmetry, height, skin color and other traits (which may or may not be genetic, but is assumed to be, like intelligence).

the fact that today, women have become more selective of these traits than the past, due to their new found economic opportunities and freedoms, means that some subset of males who would've been selected in the past (when women's choices were much more limited) are now alienated (rightly or wrongly so).

But i dont believe there to be a solution to this lookism problem, while still maintaining freedom of choice in mates.

I do believe there's a solution to systemic racism, but not for "lookism".