Just because stealth in space doesn't work doesn't automatically mean you can see everything in space at all times. We need to build giant telescopes to see stars thanks to the inverse square law. The bigger our telescopes with better light collection the narrower their field of view. An antimatter spaceship could fly past Pluto tomorrow and we could easily miss it since we can't monitor all 4πr^2 of the sky at once with powerful telescopes.
Then you can say goodbye to those robotic spaceships. Note that I'm not claiming that they're possible -- I'm just saying that if they do exist, they're very detectable.
> An antimatter spaceship could fly past Pluto tomorrow and we could easily miss it
We can detect Voyager from way past Pluto, even though it emits only several dozen watts. I'm not sure how you'd miss an antimatter-powered spaceship at a comparable distance.
But why do it? If you send a robot to (say) Alpha Centauri what have you actually acheived, at probably enormous cost?
A tech we don't have and probably never will.
So your robot ship turns up and what happens then?
If it's going to self-replicate it needs to recreate most of the features of an entire industrial civilisation. In our terms that would be metal refinement, chip manufacture, chemical life support and more - all done by bug-free software running on hardware which is perfectly error-free and reliable and lasts indefinitely.
If it's going to seed biological (or equivalent) colonists it needs to be clever enough to find candidate planets with an ideal biosphere and no biological threats. Then it needs to teach the colonists how to survive and colonise.
A lot of SETI and colonisation seems to be based a naive idea that all you have to do is get from A to B and you've solved your expansion problem.
In reality propulsion is just the loading screen. Winning the game is a much harder challenge. So many things that can break, fail, be destroyed by chance, or go wrong because of design flaws that it's an insanely difficult problem without very much more advanced tech.