But even fighting for RDMS in 2022 is getting daunting as so many people will immediately start pushing for document DB's, GraphQL, etc. Seriously - I feel like SWE's have no idea the powerhouse a modest MySQL/Postgres instance can crank out while perfectly maintaining their data (ACID, replication, etc).
Everyone wants to use tools that were designed for FAANG scale regardless of org size. Anecdotally I've fought this hard because it's almost always at incredible detriment to the business's needs.
I find that modern devs balk at "single RDMS database + stateless middle tier" but only for selfish reasons like resume-driven development. This pattern is really burning me out more than anything else of my career.
Again, all this is personal anecdotes.