I recommend working out, it helped me a ton with anxiety. It basically cured it (I don't work out much anymore but a short intense few months of hard workouts seems to have almost removed it from my system years afterwards).
Do you also trigger while trying to exercise? I have had pretty intense panic attacks while trying to work. to the point of having dizziness, weakness, closing throat feelings, the works! Pretty shitty stuff. 15 minutes later, you are absolutely normal and feeling bummed and sometimes embarrassed as well.
I would also not wish a panic attack to my worst enemy.
What I'm trying to do now is short walks and getting more 'confidence'. I think what gets us/me is the "what if I trigger" thing.
So, going slow helps build a little of confidence. That's my current plan, at least. I know an attack is bound to happen, and I will not win every time, but I'm not gonna be deterred by it. I know exercise helps a ton.
Thank you for this reply and wish you well!
If my anxiety is okay, or even if it's bad and I've taken a SOS medicine, I literally become infinite (in strength, endurance).
Wish you well!
It's nearing a decade....
Alternatively, (non-violent) retaliation? Seems like there's no downside for this person to be harassing you. Creating a downside might make her think twice next time.
Threatening to involve the police is a common way women abuse men. You can of course involve the police yourself but they often won't listen.
I had an ex try to create a situation where I would be framed for rape by creating fake social media accounts purporting to be me. Luckily she wasn't smart and the police saw that all the accounts were obviously created by her. Yet they still didn't help protect me from further harassment or do anything to her for trying to frame me and making false police reports.
Sad as it is, probably best to just try and ignore her and consider going by an alias online and moving house.
The court system is a big hole to throw money into:
1) It is surprisingly impervious to actual evidence. A woman crying on the stand, with a bunch of fabrications, will be believed. A man showing documents won't be.
2) It's influenced by preparation and money. If the other party is willing to devote their whole life into this, and you want to live anything resembling a normal life, you're basically SOL.
There isn't a magic fairy government agency who cares about this sort of thing.
I don't think there's a solution.
I was modestly famous before this, but I haven't done anything public in a half-decade because of this !@#$%.