I don't follow, it seems like unless you luck into finding a job where everyone in your management chain adheres to the same 'disconnect' work ethic, this is a pattern that will instead repeat over and over.
Having a pattern repeat is only a problem if it has some inherent downside. Let’s assume every review over your career is acceptable vs outstanding, but you also get paid more money. Isn’t that a better situation?
If you and your boss have a slightly worse relationship but you’re personally happier then again that seems like a net positive.