Lead positions don't have to be that way. As a lead, it's important to find org structure and management personalities that not only enable leaders but also give them direct domains of authority. A lot of the time when I've read about people disattisfied in leadership positions and the general toxicity around them, it's because the structure and culture remove authority from engineers, proxy it through non-engineers, and create an environment of "leadership through influence", which is absolute junk.