I don’t know, but she’s constantly pushing me, throwing me articles about huge companies hiring, about investments, savings, getting a mortgage. She constantly asks me if I got a job in that huge company I was applying to. It’s a lot of pressure.
What I want to do: make them an amazingly capable human being and leave them to make themselves happy.
What I must stop myself doing: intervening ALL the time, advising how to do it better, helicopter etc etc.
It isn't always easy to stand by and watch your kid hurt themselves.
It's by far the hardest thing you have to do, but the only consolation is that if you let them push the boundaries early they more quickly learn that they have boundaries.
Of course you limit the maximum harm, but finding things that are "acceptable" is the trick.
You could tell her to butt off, but only if you feel you need to...