Democracy is the freedom and right of involvement for the stakeholders (among other things)
> Democracy is a very blunt tool. Very important when needed, but not good for fine tuning on any reasonable time scale.
Very good for fine tuning at human time scales.
How does that work by voting or any other democratic activity?
Others will be unconvinced that it's really better, for the same reason people are skeptical of startup ideas until they become mainstream. So nobody will want to update the standard. So I couldn't release it in the market to prove that it's better, because that would be "lock-in". And the idea would die.
Whatever internal research that these companies made, to make them want to change their multi billion dollar market like this, they can go public with it first.
The EU will obviously be happy to include your better connector, provided that old cars can use it too via an adapter and new cars can use old connectors via an adapter. Then they can without issue transition to the new connector without wasting everyone's time and money.