Has Aerc added support for email threads yet? I tried it when it first came out and that was my biggest disappointment.
Using notmuch backend, one could also have a key to display all the emails that are in the same thread as the current one, so that you get a nice conversation-like view which includes sent emails as well (Purebred does this by default, for example). This is not supported out of the box yet, but I'm thinking of implementing a patch for it in the coming weeks.