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I think it’s not that single people have nothing better to do. It’s that you would need to be single and have basically no life to do this kind of 70h work week (or be prepared to end up single, cuz you sure won’t be tending to your relationships/responsibilities )

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As a consciously single I disagree along the lines of this argument (not with the argument itself). You’re seeing lost relationships as something destructive, and sure it is, but also disregard what others do as something that you can get rid of without any harm (“no life anyway”). I like my life, who’s anyone to judge what is important in it or not. Our world-wide society has this trope. “Hey, these people have kids(!), and these are in relationships, etc etc. And you are single nolifer, your rights and opportunities can wait”. As if a kid or a partner were some kind of a universal voucher.

It seems like you're reading the argument incorrectly. The argument being made is

> If you have a family, then there's no way you have time for 70hr weeks

The argument is _not_

> If you do not have a family, then you _do_ have time for 70hr weeks

Seems like you're projecting a bit. I didn't see the person your responding to make any judgement about a life with a partner/kids vs one without.

You’re right on projection, and I shouldn’t have written “you” and “disregard” in the same sentence. I meant some part of normal-life folks, addressing them via that line. My mistake, sorry all for confusion.

I’m not judging people who are single w/o kids. just saying if you’re in a relationship or have kids that is a commitment and time needs to be spent on there.

I don’t think you should overwork yourself cuz you don’t have kids. Do what you want with your life.

It has got to fuck up your body too. You are either asleep or sitting at a desk. Maybe sitting in a commute too.

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