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Not all consequences are the same, even if the initial conditions are of the same-type; not all people who acknowledge negative consequences think of themselves as victims. Saying one is aware that certain conditions and circumstances in childhood tend to cause certain negative behaviors in adulthood is helpful information. Dismissing it as having a victim mentality is unhelpful.

I think you should try and understand the definition of 'victim mentality' a little better.

There's great power in understanding where you came from, and how that affects your behavior today.

Or extremes are bad?