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It's unfortunately a lot sadder than that.

You'd be suprised at the amount of males that want to have sex but just can't get any.

There is a serious case of looks inflation nowadays with Tinder etc.

there is inflation with everything since we are connected to everyone in the world. All programmers work at FAANG, all artists are superhumanly taleneted, all business owners make million dollar unicorns and look like actors, etc. Average is slowly being filtered out

Yes average is there still actually running things...

Well you can't really get laid if you spend day and night playing video games and binge watching series.

Every time I broke up I was mildly welcoming some time for myself but never managed to be single more than a handful of weeks. And I don't consider myself particularly more attractive/interesting than everybody out there.

I don't play video games, and I don't binge watch series, but why would this exlude women/gender-non-binary? They can and do enjoy both. And they could enjoy both with someone else. After all, what is the meaning of "Netflix and Chill"? I know many women who wish to do the same with another person, and that person need not look like Brad Pitt, et al.

Perhaps I am reading too deep, but you make it sound like someone needs to make some great effort to meet someone else. No, just a slight hiccup in their daily routine can introduce them to another person whom has very similar, low energy interests. Think: Buzzfeed dating videos from 5 years ago.

See: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=FzDFKJHczQ8

Low energy people are inherently boring. The vast majority of people would rather have a SO with some sort of interest than someone who just sits around passing time while the world moves on without them. Most folks require the freedom to be alone at times for their own sanity's sake. Being a complete homebody who does nothing but sit at home all the time deprives both parties independence of action and thought. It's not healthy.

>The vast majority of people would rather have a SO with some sort of interest than someone who just sits around passing time while the world moves on without them

Really? Tell me where these people are! The vast, vast majority of couples I know just coast through life and sometimes they "hang out" and sometimes they take some photo and sometimes they partecipate in some friend's celebrations and so on and on. If they asked each other about their interest they would not have any.

Literally everywhere. You've never met anyone with a hobby?

I'm not surprised when you look at the quality of 20ish year old males. They expect sex to just fall in their laps without doing anything like learning to socialize or being interesting.

Speaking about sex to fall in their laps. I remember 2009 or so even sort of cute guys were having girls approach them.

Now the looks required for that have basically skyrocketed. Being kinda cute doesn't cut it nowadays. You have to be tall broad shouldered and have a decent career.

This is why it pays to socialize. Live your entire life behind a keyboard or phone screen and you are giving people objective reasons to dismiss you out of hand. Most people do not want to live with shut-ins. Tinder is a dating tool, not a replacement for socialization.

Have you ever questioned if 20 years old females are as desirable as they think they are? Because they are not.

Pretty handy to make all the fault of "males" while never ask them what desires they have, what they want in the other person while constantly emphasize females' desires. Have we ever question women about their own standard? Are they too high? Are they what men want? Do they bring something on the table or it's the usual "I'm a passive princess: entertain me, jester!", because if it is I prefer porn, it usually doesn't ask to pay for a date.

Let's not insult the intelligence of literally anyone by suggesting that most women have high standards. Some do. Most just want a warm, presentable body with a steady job and decent hygiene... and most still end up married by age 35. Not dating. Married. And the focus is on men because it's men who are complaining about not being able to find a date while sequestered behind their phone screen.

That's exactly what the studies suggest.

Go on Tinder and see what you get.

The evidence disagrees with you. 27 is the break-even point for male marriage.

Not just dating.

Not just sex.

Marriage.

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