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Reading stuff like this makes me really glad that I married my first girlfriend. We've been married for over 10 years now. She was really out of my league. I did compromise on many things including age gap (she is older), past baggage and the fact that I have to let her win every argument and do everything she says but I'm glad because she was the opportunity of my life and I took it and I've never been so lucky since about anything since.

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> I've never been so lucky since about anything since.

Your toxic-sounding relationship is holding you back.

How can you say that when you don't know me? Maybe I'm ugly, poor and with a terrible personality.

If you don't mind me asking, what are some things you like that you feel make it worth being with this person? (since you mentioned past baggage and having to 'let her win every argument' - that doesn't sound too nice)

Good looks and strong character. Also, we are comfortable to tell each other everything. Also, it helps that she has a very unusual taste in men and I happen to meet her requirements.

If the following is true and not hyperbole: "and the fact that I have to let her win every argument and do everything she says"

You are in an abusive relationship.

It used to be difficult when we started dating but now not so much. She keeps getting better over time. She just can't control her emotions when things get heated. I'm basically the opposite; it's easy for me to detach from my emotions and take a step back.

Sounds miserable tbqh.

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