That's not a realistic solution for many people with families.
You just said SWEs are some of the highest paying positions in the US. Not to mention many are able to work fully remote. It should be feasible that even with a family they can move.
If you move away then it becomes difficult to justify the high pay.
If you move away and persist with the high pay and excessive resource acquisition, then congrats- you've just entered the category of being another needlessly greedy human, like Mollusk.