Also, unfortunately, in today's society, high value men have less incentive to settle down. That is sad. Someone desirable to you, probably is for many other girls too, and they know that
You might be a great person/woman, but might have something turning down people as well... I can't say. We, internet strangers, can't help without knowing you
If your tastes are less aligned with typical as this suggests that bodes well for your prospects.
Along a different dimension, what indicia of nerdiness appeal to you?
This comment along with your reactions suggests a theory. Let's see if it validates :)
A lot of this makes sense. This seems consistent with my understanding of who you are. If your assessment of them was accurate, I'm surprised they left so readily. This makes me wonder what the 12 or so second dates would say.
I wonder if this suggests there were men you were even more interested in who you didn't go out with again because they seemed too perfect, because you felt you wouldn't be good enough.