Hi love, I want to honor your for never giving up on one of your heart's deepest desires. I can only imagine the discouragement you're feeling but you're still here asking for support/guidance. From what I'm gathering from your post, the BEST love hack I could possibly offer is going to be something that might seem counterproductive, but hear me out. I know you're 41 and I know your biological clock is ticking and I'm sure that adds additional pressure to find a good man that you love to marry ASAP. Buuuuuuuut there's a way to collapse time on the things you want to call into your life, there's a way to manifest at hyper speed and it's the last thing you'd ever think to do. Here it is... Surrender the timeline completely, surrender the hyper focus on needing to find a man AT ALL. This is an Abraham Hicks teaching. Sometimes when we focus too much on the thing we desperately want we are actually repelling it because we're SO aware of it's absence. The universe always gives us what we are energetic match for and the best way I know to become an energetic match to True Love is: "Stop looking, stop searching, BREATHE, relax, live FULLY, open your heart deeper. Serve this world with your gifts and let it come to you." That was the best advice I got from Lorin Krenn when I was calling in The One, my Sacred Union. I got crystal clear on what I wanted in a man (did a powerful journaling on the 08/08 portal - which is coming up!) and then I surrendered it all to the universe and focused on living my most aligned, soul fulfilling life... and I met the man BEYOND my wildest dreams a month later at a music festival called Blended, which blended culinary, wellness and music (3 of our FAV things in the world!). There's obviously more inner work that I did that I'm happy to share more about but that was the gist of it. In my world, if you desire a Sacred Union, it's INEVITABLE! And in order to speed up the manifestation we have to sloooooooow down. Just know that ALLLL that you've invested in yourself is adding up, it's compounding and you're on the BRINK of the greatest love story... but in the meantime see if you can surrender ALL of it over to the Universe. There's so many powerful resources but the most important one is to decide he's already yours and now you simply get to love yourself and your life SOOO fully that it actually is irrelevant if he shows up in this lifetime or not (love hack - get to a state of neutrality (surrender)). I really hope that was helpful <3