I happen to know (quite well) an Iranian who was in a similar position to you before he came to Europe, except he had a lot of IT experience (and a finished degree) before attempting to move to Europe, but it's not working out for him. He's basically prohibited from working while he's trying to get a residence permit. That has been denied several times because he's basically (like you would be) an 'economic refugee'. He didn't speak the local language and he was too overwhelmed with how different everything was here to really learn. He got basically 0 callbacks on the dozens if not 100's of job applications he send out, despite wide-spread labor shortages in exactly the sorts of positions he applied for. Very little to none of his Iranian work experience counted for anything here (differences in certification systems, couldn't/can't get his university degree accredited). He's a few years older than you are (43 I think?) but you'll be too by the time you get out in the time frame you indicate, and this is an age that's already starting to work against you, especially if you're already burnt out.

You'll need 1000's to 10's of 1000's of EUR/USD to move anywhere in the West, otherwise you'll end up in refugee centers from where it'll be exceedingly hard to get/keep stable employment. It'll be very hard to find housing on a budget anywhere where there are economic opportunities in the fields you're looking in, so expect costs of several thousands a month (let's even say just 2k for everything for the two of you) - and you'll have to be able to pay those until you get a job.

As you will know, after you leave Iran it'll be pretty much impossible to get any cooperation from the Iranian government to get any of your paperwork validated/accredited etc (I've seen real problems stemming from that with several Iranians in the diaspora of the guy I was talking about above).

Your wife's job will be very hard to impossible to do here without basically going through university again. And you/she will not be eligible for scholarships. Nobody will really think of her experience in Iran as being applicable in Europe (regardless of how true or not that is), save for some niche circumstances like her being able to find a job working for an Iranian company or a company that works with Iranian companies a lot. I don't have to tell you that there are very few of those around.

Not to be a Debby Downer, but at least if you plan to come to Europe, make very sure you know what you're getting yourself into. Fair or not, you'll be lumped in with 100's of thousands of other Middle Eastern and African refugees, and it'll be very hard to get your foot in the door in professional jobs in Western Europe (and I imaging in Southern- or Eastern Europe it'll be more difficult still, as you'll have basically 0 chance without speaking the local languages very well).