I've been developing professionally for almost 30 years. I still love making software and I'm good at it.
When I started in this industry, being able to do it at all was the barrier to entry. The processes were light; "here's what we need it to do, go figure it out." Responsibility (and impact) were both high.
Somewhere along the line that changed. Teams blew up to be dozens of people. Process fads weighed things down with tons of meetings, silly ceremonies and other things that actively slow down productive developers.
Add to the mix the hell that is tech interviewing now. If you're interviewing for anyone that will pay well, you're going to be subjected to "leetcode" style puzzles under pressure and stress scrutiny. If that's not how you best think and solve problems, tough!
So yeah...I can absolutely relate. I still love building software and I hate the industry.
The only escape is entrepreneurship or possibly consulting, both of which I am actively looking to do.