I'm not sure that would be the case for everyone if they were presented with the option.
Also i’m in my late 30s. I’d feel deeply uncomfortable being with a 19yr old under any circumstances, and in ways that wouldn’t kick in with a 91yr old.
Either way, at this point this is just two non-sex workers (i assume) saying what they think sex work is like, so i don’t think there’s anything more useful to be said without someone with direct experience joining.
Of course she couldn't choose a client who didn't even want to hire her, but rejecting a client who throws up red flags is certainly possible and advisable.
Of course it is. Every fiber of her body is telling her that the 91 year old is non-viable and repugnant.
Every fiber of her body is telling her that the 19 year old is not only viable but yummy.
The flat fee is basically the 19 year old subsidizing the 91 year old for the immense effort that the escort has to make to override all the red alarms going off in her brain, heart and gut about having sex with a 91 year old.
On the contrary all the indicators are green when she's with the 19 year old but he has to pay the same rate of the 91 year old.
I’m not saying you’re wrong 100% of the time, but I’d be willing to bet a significant portion of sex workers wouldn’t see things that way at all.
It's not me, it's Nature has a repulsion towards age, especially as it relates to sex and sex appeal. That's why people lose sex drive and attractiveness as they age, both men and women. Civilians and Sex workers alike.
> perhaps a fantasy of being an exception for any sex worker you’re with?
I just don't want to subsidize horny grandpa. Trying to be the exception and becoming friends with benefit as of today is the only rational way to go about it given the flat fee
Nature may make a framework for things, but our brains can work us out of that framework very easily. Not to mention you’re just wrong - plenty of older people (mostly women) would describe their sex drive as higher than ever.
To put it simply it’s like the initial consultation at a lawyers office. That fee is low, just to get a feel for the clients situation before talking about more. Young people have less lifetime value as customers because specifically they want high value things like sex.
Old guys are okay with mere companionship.
Indeed. What's not a debate is 19 y/o vs 91 y/o.
I did not mention race, political stance, skin color, language spoken or country of birth or any of those things. It's you who did that.
There's one other difference between the 19 and 91 year olds that you are overlooking. It's quite obvious and straightforward why the 91-year old is hiring a sex worker. However, unless he has 24 hours of shore leave before the Navy makes him get back on the boat, the 19-year old is inherently far more sketchy.
He's in the prime years of his life for casual sex, and attracting mates. Why does he not have any friends with benefits? Why does he not have any exes, who departed on good enough terms for occasional hook-ups? Why does he not simply have a girlfriend?
The old guy is a known commodity. The young incel is a walking red flag, who even in the best-case scenario is comparatively poor and apparently wants to haggle you on your rates. I suspect that for the sex worker it all balances out well enough.
Stay yummy.
People want to both travel the world/live the digital nomad lifestyle AND be able to be in bed with a 10/10 the night they land in Rio or Barcelona when they don't know anybody yet.
Escorts and sex workers provide a service that enables guys to do just that and get the best of both worlds, but the person who is getting the best of all worlds is the pensioneer who travels the world and has his quota subsidized by young clients.
According to this: https://www.researchgate.net/figure/Demographic-characterist...
The median age of sex workers clients is 42yrs old, and the standard deviation is 10 years. If I’m doing my basic stats right that means that 99% of clients are under the age of 65, and 99.9% are under the age of 73. Which means that the 19yr old and about 1000 other clients are subsidizing the over 73yr old clients. Idk what the going rate is but if it’s $200 that’s $0.20 each if the over 71yr old paid $0.
I don’t think you’re getting ripped off, my guy.
Edit: fixed an early rounding error. 99.9% is under 73 not 71.