I don't think it's possible to tell if your or your partner's acclimatisation period and subsequent improvements were caused by the effect of the antidepressants or by a placebo effect
2. Sure there’s a way to tell! Just have her stop taking the pills; that’d show if it really worked before. (Note: do not do this.)
2. Yes, I inadvertently forgot to take a pill one day and only realized the next day. Coincidentally I felt depressed that day. It could only be a coincidence but I'm firmly convinced it's not. I'm not going to try to replicate the experiment though (especially since doing it on purpose could induce a placebo effect).
Edit: see answer, I'm probably wrong on that 2.