If AWS Graviton or Microsoft ARM significantly grows then it might force Apple to be aligned with ARM64 but just with their own extensions. Because one of the big blockers for developers during the transition to M1 was having all of the CLI tools being available. And they were only available on day one because of demand from AWS users etc.
It really doesn’t matter. Most applications are written in non native languages like Node, C#, Java, and Python.
If you have native dependencies, even if you are on the same architecture, you’re going to run into issues developing and building packages if if isn’t the same operating system.
Simple case of building Lambdas on none Amazon Linux operating system is just add —use-containers when using the Serverless Application Model.
Other cases, I’ve had to build on Cloud 9 instances.
ARM doesn't care what you call them.