Comment by BlackLotus89 | Hacker News Reader

Comment by BlackLotus89 | Hacker News Reader

What the hell is wrong with the hn crowd here? Why is everybody picking on that poor guy? Why are all the comments trying to paint the bleakest picture of him without knowing him or his wife? He wants to introduce linux to his wife and she fears that relearning everything will be hard. I'm sure he wont force linux down her throat if she says she can't use it and will gladly install her the OS she wants. I installed my family linux on their PC as well so that I could better support them. Most of them still use it happily and one used linux for a few tasks and windows for others. I couldn't imagine giving my wife windows support, but she still got a windows partition for a few games. Anyway.... Back to the topic

If she does as little with windows as it sounds don't do anything fancy. Give her shortcuts on the desktop or in the favs and enable her to use her PC for what she does without distraction. Introduce the laptop parallel to her old laptop and let her try it first. If she doesn't like it you can dual boot windows or just install her windows. Don't try to hard making it like windows try making it easy to use.

If you go the windows route don't forget "open shell" and "o&o shutup" are essentials for a minimal migration from win7 to win10. Powertoys are nice as well.

> I'm sure he wont force linux down her throat if she says she can't use it and will gladly install her the OS she wants.

> I am trying to move her away from Windows, but she resists, because that is the only OS she knows and does not want to 're-learn how to do everything'.

This does not seem like a case of a husband trying to help a wife keen on giving it a shot make it easy for her.

Sounds to me more like it was badly worded (could be wrong, but to me he doesn't sound like a native speaker)

Resisting can take many forms like for instance the resistance of my wife to try mushrooms. I pressed her to try some that I liked and she "gave in". Hey she was right she didn't like the texture of any of them, but she was glad she tried it. In my opinion it's normal in a healthy relationship to persuade the partner to try new things. Without the insistence of my wife I wouldn't have tried a few series, didn't went to the doctor when it was necessary and would life a bit too unhealthy.

My point is that she asked him to get her a laptop and she sounds unwilling to try it because she doesn't "know linux". Bringing the better half to try new things isn't a bad thing, that's at least my opinion.

They seem to be projecting the issues they have in their own relationships, obviously a hot button topic for a lot of people here.

It's 2022. If you, as a man, don't accede to every single demand your wife has, you are, at best, emotionally abusive. If she doesn't give enthusiastic consent to the operating system you install on the device she asked you to procure and set up based on your domain knowledge, then you're definitely a rapist. Most likely a Nazi, as well.

OP is clearly a controlling, abusive, gaslighting narcissist. His preference that his wife enjoy a more stable, secure, less bloated computing experience for her sake, and based on his subject-matter expertise is domestic violence, and HN is correctly and properly pointing out that he is Hitler.

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