This kind of sounds like being mad that the cop pulled you over for speeding, despite everyone else also speeding. I know it sucks and it feels like you're being singled out, but generally "everyone else is breaking the rule, too" has never been convincing to rule enforcers.
I worked at a company that always tried to walk the line right up to the edge of Apple's rules, and unsurprisingly kept running into trouble with app reviews. The company kept wanting to dig in and fight because "our_competitor does the same thing". My advice was always that it's pointless, and we'd be better off just concentrating on our app and fixing it.
At this point in my career, I almost feel like I could make money simply being an "AppStore Rules Consultant" who flies into a company, says "Just Do What Apple Said In Their Message!" and take home my fee.