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> I am already thinking about "taking the easy way out".

Please don't. You have something to offer and if you snuffed yourself out, that valuable spark of human spirit would be gone.

Gently, "some weeks" (not sure what this means exactly) is not a very long to be looking for work. Keep your chin up and keep applying. Get a resume review — I'm sure someone here would be happy to take a look and see what you can improve. Get a non-professional job in the meantime just to keep some money flowing in. And reach out to your family and friends for support. There is no shame in leaning on people; we all need help to get through the hard times.

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> "some weeks" (not sure what this means exactly) is not a very long to be looking for work.

I know but when you are desperately looking for work, along with multiple failures, 12 weeks could felt like 12 months. Especially with an empty pocket. I know it rationally doesn't make any sense but from experience that is how it felt. It was hard, especially hard when you dont have family and friends around you for support.

>Get a non-professional job in the meantime just to keep some money flowing in.

Yes. Waiter, Drivers. There are plenty of options, enough for food on the table.

To OP. I dont know much about US Food Cost, but at one point in my life I was spending 70 pence a day on food, or a little more than a US dollar. Washing clothes by hand, couldn't even afford heating in Winter. Barely able to afford to pay rent and food along with whatever debt. Something like McDonald was luxury. It was hard, but not impossible.

Just dont give up.

Dont FUCKING give up.

During the dot com bust, my brother -in-law ended up being unemployed for 18 months.

Moving back in with family, if an option, is always a good path in situations like this.

This is very solid advice. Just being around people and not having to worry about rent will be a huuuuge burden lifted off your shoulders!

I think it's important to note that for some people, being around family is more stressful than having to worry about rent.

Being stressed around family is better than being homeless.

True, but that's a whole other story. If you're homeless, you're no longer worrying about rent - you're worrying about having a place to sleep.

Works in the US, where most families live in big houses. Doesn't work as well in the rest of the world, where people tend to live in smallish apartments much more often.

In many parts of the world including parts of Europe eg Italy, it’s common to live with family until you get married.

You will be surprised that in many parts of the world, people do live in big houses too and sometimes much bigger than average mcmansion here in the US. It is usually cities where apartments are more common.

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