> I'm so over this deconstructionist "reality is your perception" line.
What makes you completely reject that? I don't think it has as much to do with deconstructionism as it does embodied cognition. We keep learning more and more about how biology and physiology and evolutionary pressures affect and inform cognition and thus perception. I was recently reading about how there have been scientific studies that seem to suggest that certain animals seem to experience time differently that we do. So you could say "time is a thing", but yet, it appears that it is not the same thing across lifeforms. There are animals that sense gravitational and electromagnetic fields, something we cannot do. Would it make sense to them to say "all beings can read these fields because we do"?
I think the problem is that it is all too easy to fall into the trap in thinking that alien lifeforms would be like us. There's a multitude of evidence of that here on Earth in the variety of life, despite even coming from the same origin.