Very sorry to hear that, end of life is hard for many. Thank you for your post and the discussion it brought.

Yeah, my grandma has dementia, can't walk without assistance, and basically just shits herself all the time. She lives with my mom, but she doesn't have the energy or mental fortitude to be the full-time caretaker she needs. She wants to put her in a caretaking facility, but just doesn't have the energy to research options, not to mention the money. She wants to call my uncle and ask him to pay for it (Grandma and the uncle are on my dad's side, but my dad passed 3 years ago), but has basically been avoiding making that call.

> Or just die before it becomes an issue, I guess.

If I ever get to the point where I'm no longer living, but merely surviving the way my grandma is, I'd sign a DNR and make it my solution.

My grandfather died in his home after a short but severe illness with round-the-clock care from the family. It was relatively easy, as far as these sort of things are ever "easy".

My grandmother died a few years before that, after spending a year in a nursing home with a less severe illness. It just wasn't feasible to keep her at home: she couldn't really walk any more and half the family would have to pause their lives. I don't really know her opinion on that as we never really had that kind of heart-to-heart relationship, but I would certainly much rather be "put in a home" than be such a burden. My grandfather was very happy that his end was a swift one, so the family wouldn't have to put through a long drawn-out ordeal again.