Replying here, because I cant reply to your comment several levels down.
I can see how you would have that perspective as a third-party analyst of conversion.
It's actually easy to do if you are the exchange/sell-side provider of the advertising space. In your logic, where the advertiser running the incrementality study would have won the auction, just randomly remove their bid from some won auctions, have the second highest bidder win, and then track that user as the "control" for conversion purposes vs. users you did display the ad to. Voilà!
That's not observation. That's statistical inference. I am referring, strictly, to direct, empiricial observation. With any kind of statistical inference, you get into a pissing match about assumptions, model quality, etc... Is the "control" a good stand-in for the behavior of the "test", etc.
Incrementality is able to be estimated, but unobservable. And therein lies the potential for fraud.