No, it was not a reasonable remark. Pointing someone else's choice changes nothing. The point that you keep missing is that performance is a key decision factor, one among many, and baseline performance penalties imposed by a particular choice of programing is a factor that adds up to all other choices. If you degrade the performance of your offering without any relevant tradeoff, you're making it harder to justify it's adoption.
Feel free to insist in your personal assertion. Those who care about performance feel strongly about gratuitously pile performance penalties without any meaningful tradeoff to show.