Your reply removes all agency from individual countries who independently decided to join NATO. Reminds me of certain whataboutist, bothsidist discourse in circles outside YN too.
It's not one-sided, existing NATO members have to approve new membership. They could have said no.
The initiative lies squarely on the interested country. No other entity can decide to start that process. Whether NATO members take the interested country in or not is another matter. And it still has nothing to do with Russia itself. Let alone that its border with NATO countries hadn't changed in nearly two decades.
"Hello person that been abused by a bully, I'm going to ignore your pleas for help"