I am a Dvorak touchtypist, this was literally my first skill I developed during my study in university. I can predict that relearning from qwerty to Dvorak or Dvorak for programmers will be very painful for someone in his mid-thirties, but since you are going to train yourself with typing anyway, I recommend you to start from Dvorak and continue with qwerty if the pain will be really unbearable. There is nothing good in qwerty except of super handy placement of Cut, Copy, Past, Save and Select All operations - you know, a lot of people just have no requirements to typing setup other that handy copy-pasting.

Also you might consider to start some music playing for developing your fingers. For me playing vertical piano was kind of another step in mastering my keyboard skill because it involves all 10 fingers and vertical piano is significantly harder to press than grand piano or (especially) a synthesizer.

Your ring index issue looks very strange for me. I have noticed that nowadays nobody press a door bell button with ring finger anymore, probably because of smartphones.

add: If this is not obvious from my comment, I want this to be obvious: download any keyboard training software or use this kind of website. Requirement is an ability to start from 4 letters.