I’m gonna play devil’s advocate here and suggest that you probably just didn’t know of the skeletons hidden in the closet. I came from one of those good families where things were handled reasonably and I was taught to deal with negative emotions and my mother was a saint and all of that is true; but my family is still fucked up, we still have our skeletons like everyone else I’ve ever met, and I’m still fucked up in my own way from some of it.

After typing this all out, I’m wondering if “fucked up” is not just a vernacular for “experienced”.