I don’t know your role or the expectations at a FAANG but chances are all these messages you are trying to keep up on are keeping you from doing something else that would be more valuable to both your mental health and the company.
If you can set boundaries I would do so. Some things that have helped me:
- Asked my boss what was absolutely important for real time communication and turned off notifications for everything else.
- Aggressively using my status for work. I block my calendar between 8am-12pm and put “programming” in my status with notifications turned off. If there’s a real fire slack lets you “send anyway”.
- I try to put time aside in my day to dedicate to paperwork type stuff. This includes slack, email, hr stuff and so on. This really helps me because I’m not constantly context shifting and can give the appropriate time towards anything being asked of me. It also helps with perceived tone as I don’t read the message feeling resentful.
This sort of stuff is easier said than done and you have to figure out what works best for your situation. At the end of the day most things can wait a bit and actually work out better when there’s a bit of time to process and think about them. A lot of people have just forgotten.