General reminder: BDSM does not imply "man dom, woman sub". In fact it doesn't even imply how many people are involved and what their genders are.
Edit: Why am I being downvoted for pointing out something objectively true?
Edit: Why am I being downvoted for pointing out something objectively true?
And, please, let's not pretend to be socially inept machines - everyone here chooses to ignore a guideline or two when it's convenient - at least I was looking for actual feedback, as I was sincerely puzzled by the situation.