i believe that software design is really hard. it seems appropriate to mention "conceptual integrity" which is a term i believe was coined by the (recently) late great fred brooks. his book "the design of design" talks about it a lot and i really found the discussion helpful. here is a very brief summary from his earlier book: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/The_Mythical_Man-Month#Concept...

sometimes saying no is the right thing to do.

as an aside, i find it a little distasteful that the author of this blog post chose to call projects out by name. these people are putting their efforts out for free and they are, to my eyes, taking flak for doing so.