(There are also sulfates that are aren't AES, such as sodium sulfate, which appears in many powdered dishwasher detergents. I doubt this has the same effect, so it's incorrect to just blame "sulfates".)
I think you need to learn the gloriously liberating feeling of admitting you were wrong.
many sulfates are not surfactants
none of the numerous meanings in https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/AES are in any way related to surfactants or sulfates
many sulfates and surfactants are not 'harmful' as generally understood (though there's probably a lethal dose of any of them)
why are you posting this misinformation here
why are you posting this egregious misinformation here
So basically do not dishwash plastic stuff.
I don't use rinse aid, never have, you don't actually need it, you can just let the dishes air dry for slightly longer.
If you have hard water then soften it, rather than use a rinse aid.
PS I have no chemical expertise, but the article singles out alcohol ethoxylates as the cause of this damage. And while I don't use rinse aid in my home dishwasher, my Cascade dishwasher pods list "Isotridecanol Ethoxylated" as an ingredient, which may be one of these substances? At least this gets rinsed off, though I doubt it gets rinsed completely.
Home dishwashers attempt to remove food residue with enzymes (also no soap).
It does not get rinsed off. The hope is that it drips off the dishes, but some will remain and then dry. Does this ingredient dry? I don't know.