> it’s your choice, but you’re definitely missing out on something special.
I totally forgot to mention the patronizing attitude that so many people come to this conversation with. Thank for you for heads up.
I totally forgot to mention the patronizing attitude that so many people come to this conversation with. Thank for you for heads up.
You don’t. You have no idea of the emotional and practical side of having children, and how hard and how amazing it is, and how it’s the best and hardest part of your life up until then.
Patronising is thinking you know you don’t want kids without having them. You don’t. You have no idea what it’s like.
... what?
They can listen to third parties which had the same experience, have experiences which are similar but less intense, or just use their imagination and figure out whether the person they are - whose values and goals they hopefully know - could possibly enjoy whatever is being discussed.
I still have no idea how someone saying "I won't pursue that because that's not what I want for myself" could possibly be "patronizing", even assuming it could be false.
This sentence is the definition of patronizing. It's the same thing parents tell their kids: "oh you just don't understand what it's like, that's why you don't agree with me".
In this example, who exactly am I being patronizing toward? Myself?