It really depends on which subreddit you ask. I see plenty of support to people in these situations on r/entrepreneur and r/smallbusiness.
https://old.reddit.com/r/Entrepreneur+smallbusiness/search?q...
https://old.reddit.com/r/Entrepreneur+smallbusiness/search?q...
Now my theory is that Stripe will be a tad more inclined to help developers who help them build their empire via integrations and platforms and such, while actual merchants are a dime a dozen (in their eyes). I also have a perception that they have become way more MBA-aggressive in the recent years.