Modern self help is also selfish. There was a great bit on the Bojack Horseman show. A character disappears. Everyone is looking for them under the idea that they might have committed suicide. In the end, they went to decompress on their California ranch. They wanted to disconnect and so didn't tell anyone where they were going. Self help, with no regard for how your self help negatively impacts countless other people. When confronted, the character doesn't care. They take pride in choosing to "take responsibility" for their own happiness. Selfish jerk.