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A reputable dating website can most likely not be for-profit.

"Why You Should Never Pay For Online Dating", written by a co-founder of OkCupid:

https://www.gwern.net/docs/psychology/okcupid/whyyoushouldne...

before they, too, sold out to the Match Group monopoly.

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Match_Group#Dating_services_ow...

The world needs a site with the moral integrity and user-only focus the likes of lichess.org

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> The world needs a site with the moral integrity and user-only focus the likes of lichess.org

A low-costs + donations model ala lichess would actually be quite interesting for a data site.

Maybe you could even convince "alumni" to donate, in appreciation of their successful relationship. The longer it lasted, the more donations.

A lot of people would pay to get the history of their exchanges on a dating site. You don't realize when you close your account that you're also losing all the history of how you met - at the time it's more of a celebration of "job done" and demonstration of commitment.

I understand why it all vanishes (the privacy concerns are non-trivial, storage isn't free), but it would be worth almost any price when the 5/10/20 year anniversaries roll around.

After our third date, my now-wife and I decided to delete our online dating accounts. I had the foresight to screenshot/download her profile and our messages, but I forgot to capture my own. Oh well!

The problem with a free dating site is that it'll quickly become polluted with fake accounts - scammers and people promoting their OnlyFans page. At least that's my experience.

That would be a great problem to focus on if you were trying to improve the experience for users.

The way to improve the experience is precisely to charge money. Everybody benefits: users are more serious because they have invested money into their own success, the website has a source of funding to keep the doors open, and fake accounts are less frequent because they cost money to run.

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