>I think too many people try and discuss tools based on things that aren't relevant or are idealistic or that remove the nuance from the argument.
Some people think the universe is just apple and oranges. Everything is a tool that can be used somewhere nothing is truly good or bad. Well how about that? On the entire earth there isn't a technology that is absolutely great or raw shit and anyone who has such an opinion lacks nuance or is too idealistic.
No. To over-rely on nuance is to say nothing is black and nothing is white and everything is nuanced even when the nuance is inconsequential. This is wrong. Generalities and essential truths exist. For example, punching yourself in the face is generally bad, but if you talk about nuance and context then if you had a poisonous bug on your face, then punching yourself to save your own life is a good thing. But despite this the generality remains true.
The nuance for ORMs is only this: if you want to create a tree or a graph for graph algorithms like bfs or dfs on top of a non graph database then ORMs are literally the main abstraction to use. That's it. This is rare, because usually you have other databases other then relational that are better for this. But if you don't have the resources to load an entirely new type of database into production then ORMs are one way to perform graph algorithms on an existing SQL database.
For this instance the situation is clear, the nuance is negligible. ORMs are bad for most cases the same way eating poison is bad for you in most cases. If you want to talk about the nuance of when eating poison is sometimes good for you, be my guest. But the generality remains true.
>I think any discussion of tools without a clearly scoped use case is next to useless.
Agreed. Let's scope it to the all practical use cases seen in the wild. My argument is for the vast majority of use cases ORMs provide little benefit other then cosmetic.
This whole thing about scope is quite pointless imo. Because obviously the above scope I described basically what I'm referring to. You know it. Why do I need to spell this out specifically or be useless? Shouldn't the implication of scope be derived automatically from the discussion via usage of common sense?