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A corollary that helped me take criticism less personally: a friend once said “I ONLY like negative feedback”.

They went on to explain that positive feedback/compliments weren’t helpful to them because they couldn’t grow from it. The starkness of the statement was what I needed to recognize it.

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Interesting perspective. This requires a level of inner strength that many of us do not always have. Increasingly though I realize that I don't need a lot of verbal feedback. You can tell a lot just by people's physical reactions to you. And the corollary is that I notice that there are some people that I try and shut down with body language to get them to leave me alone.

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