Just tell me why you don’t like the function name instead of trying to take me on a little thinking quest for my little brain
For the contrived example about renaming a method, no I dont think you should ask why they named it that way.
It’s similar to the idea of “being offended” which is pretty common these days. It’s been said that offense is taken not given. So the reader is usually the problem. Ignoring of course the blatantly offensive topics and communications, which do still exists. But in a work situation, you should always approach things with an assumption the other person is trying to be constructive and make an effort to not be offended by something that initially offends you or was delivered in a terse manner. If a patterns presents itself, have a conversation and ask why it’s being delivered that way.
I've had people tell me they think its insane how some people can't handle code reviews and would go to their manager about it.